North India Statesman
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News India Live, Digital Desk: Becoming a parent is the most beautiful feeling in the world, but it is no less than a ‘full time job’. And this job becomes more difficult when our beloved child starts insisting on things.
If you too are tired of these activities like lying down for toys in the market, insisting on not eating food or crying over your mobile, then you are not alone.
Often we think that we will correct the child by scolding or scaring him, but believe the truth, this makes the child more rebellious. Today we are telling you some practical tips which will bring change in your child’s behavior without any noise.
1. Be a Listener, not “Shut up.”
When a child is stubborn, he is actually venting his anger or frustration. In such a situation, if you also shout at them, it will add fuel to the fire.
Instead, get down on your knees (so you’re at their height) and calmly ask—”Son, why are you upset?” When the child feels that he is being ‘heard’, half of his anger automatically subsides.
2. Don’t give orders, give ‘options’ (Give Choices)
Children don’t like to be given orders all the time—”Drink milk!”, “Go to sleep!”. They feel that their freedom is being taken away.
Next time instead of ordering, ask them- “Son, will you drink milk in a chocolate cup or a cartoon mug?”
This makes them feel that the decision their Yes, and they happily agree. It’s called smart parenting!
3. Stop saying “no” to everything
If you tell your child “don’t do this”, “don’t touch that” 10 times a day, the value of the word ‘no’ will be lost.
Choose your battles. If the child is asking for something that does not cause any harm, then accept it. Say ‘no’ only when something is dangerous or very important. And once you say ‘no’, stick to it, don’t melt down.
4. It is important to create a routine
Children often become irritable when they do not get enough sleep or are hungry. It is very important to have a time-table for children. When they know that now is the time to study and now is the time to play, there is less scope for argument.
5. Don’t be stingy with praise
We immediately point out the child’s mistake, but when he does something good, we remain silent.
If today your child ate food or shared his toy without insisting, then hug him and say – “Oh wow! You did a great job today.” Your praise will motivate him to behave well again.
Last thing:
Before correcting children, we have to learn to calm ourselves. Remember, a child learns what he sees his parents doing. Have some patience, show love, change will definitely come!
