Same bed, but miles apart. Has intimacy also disappeared from your relationship? save it in time

News India Live, Digital Desk: Do you remember the early days of your marriage? They spend hours looking at each other, talking late into the night, and just finding excuses to be near each other. Everything seemed so magical, didn’t it? But, as soon as the clock moves forward 2 or 3 years, that magic seems to be lost somewhere.

A life coach’s shocking claim has sparked debate. He says that In 80% of marriages, ‘intimacy’ starts ending after 2 to 3 years. And the couple becomes victims of a ‘boring routine’.

Why does this happen? Why does the same person without whom one could not spend even a moment suddenly seem like a ‘stranger’ or just a responsibility after 3 years?

1. Victim of ‘Roommate Syndrome’
The biggest reason is that husband and wife have changed from being lovers to becoming “just roommates”. You live under one roof, pay bills, get groceries, and take care of the kids just like two good roommates do. But ‘romance’ and ‘mischief’ disappear from it. The conversation now turns to “How was the day?” Starting with “What vegetable to bring?” But it ends.

2. We stop ‘trying’
In the beginning, we used to get ready to ‘impress’ the person in front of us, to give surprise. But after a few years of marriage, a sense of security (comfort zone) comes. We think—”Now that the marriage is over, where will he/she go?” We take it for granted and this is the moment where the spark starts to wane.

3. Pressure of becoming a parent
2-3 years is often the time when a small guest (child) enters the family. Suddenly the role of husband and wife changes to that of ‘Papa’ and ‘Mummy’. All the energy and time goes on the child. In such a situation, the time that the couple should give to each other is wasted in changing diapers and dropping them to school. There is so much fatigue that one does not get time to think about intimacy.

4. Lack of emotional connection
The biggest reason for reduced physical intimacy is emotional distance. When we stop sharing our fears, dreams or thoughts with our partner and only talk about household matters, the connection starts to end.

So how to fix it?

Life coach’s advice is simple“Never stop dating.” Even if you’ve been married for 10 years, go out of the house with your partner once a week or once a month. Put the phone away and talk about the same things you used to do before marriage. Treat a relationship like a ‘plant’, if you do not water it with love and time, it will dry up.

Remember, it’s easy to get bored, but keeping love alive is hard work.